I sat and had coffee with a couple of very close girl friends a few days ago just chatting about girl issues and the topic of difference between men and women came up.
Now, I am not an expert on this issue, I admit and I’d much rather not discuss it but a couple of very interesting points came up which I would like to share.
Apparently, men are more chilled about guy-girl relationships when women tend to make it all about themselves and make love and passion the centre of their lives.
This is true, speaking from experience, because girls like the emotional stability and quite often blame their ‘bad things in life’ on their ‘bad luck in love’.
Example: you have a fight with your boyfriend, everything else seems to go bad and work sucks, school is crap and so on. You make up and the sun is shinning again and you are seeing the world as this wonderful, pink place. Sounds familiar girls?
We also, generally like to make men our own personal projects. I have been trying to avoid this for quite some time but having a bit of trouble with the detachment :) We like to analyze and inspect every single bit of our conversations, behaviors, facial expressions etc.
Sometimes I think the women kind is doomed and this is our curse.
When we are not in a relationship we dream of having someone to hold our hand and have someone to call in the middle of the night and tell them all about your bad dreams. On the other hand we are stating we are independent and can live without men and being in a relationship want to escape and be free and not have any obligations towards anyone.
I think this is another curse, because most of the time we don’t really know what we want, do we? But the thought that men don't know what they want either is comforting. Fun, sex, love, security..? What do you think?
Basically, to us, men are just one big puzzle we can’t live with but can’t live without either. Trying to decode them is just one big headache so I will just leave it to the experts and read some of those “Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars” books.
But nevertheless my friends and I will still spend our time having coffee and never ending discussions about what the conquerors of our hearts did or did not do…that will never change.
Cheers
(This text was inspired by the new song by Pussy Cat Dolls feat. Will I am called BEEP)