Romance?!
A comment Anoop wrote a few days ago got me thinking about romance and it’s relevance in our lives.I am tired of writing sad topics and want to trigger your mind with some questions about the lives strangest ingredient: romance.
I always considered myself to be anti-romantic and (according to some people) very cold and distant from the ‘mushy side of love’. I guess I have never considered anyone worthy of me preparing anything romantic for them or (on the other hand) capable of impressing me with any romantic gestures.
I do have a few romantic moments I will remember forever but have only learned to appreciate those moments now that I am older and (hopefully) wiser.
Frankly, I am romantic and Anoop was right. I have become a hopeless ‘damsel in distress’ searching for someone who will, perhaps, take off my cold veil of anti romanticism and will sweep me off my feet.
Do you think that romance is really a necessary element of quality living?
One of the rare romantic moments of my life (and the most memorable one) includes me playing guitar in the middle of a circle of a hundred candles for someone who just wanted to listen to me play. That simple… it wasn't anyone I was romantically involved with but the entire situation was very romantic.
What is your most romantic moment?
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"searching for someone who will, perhaps, take off my cold veil of anti romanticism and will sweep me off my feet."
You know I wish i could answer that, I have had alot of good things happen in my life, and have lived a very good life alot of friends and family.
Yes have had good relationships and bad. im in one now that is super... BUT IM SAD to say im not the most romantic man. I try but i think if i had to tell you my most romantic moment would be a simple sack lunch on a clift overlooking the Alaska Range
very interesting blog. looking forward to more.
thanks again
Richard
Doesn't quite count as romantic since I was alone... but sitting on a beach in Limbe, Cameroon - it was late in the night/ early in the morning- my first experience of the Atlantic Ocean... I could hear the waves coming in, I could see the lights out in the distance on some ships and the sky was a brilliant carpet of stars...
All I could think of at that time was that after 22 years, my life has led me to this spot at this time - I wish I had someone to share it with...
Damn, I can't nail it down to just one. But now you've got me thinking.
Merili,
For me. A very romantic moment was to go with some friend and Amanda (a very sweet girl) in the middle of the montains using a bob to a wooded house were we all had dinner.
For you. A quick and probably dangerous judgement, I have met some people like you (or at least as I undrestand from your description) and I think that you probably are very rational and very distant from your friends. Too rational or coming out from difficult moments?
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hmmm, since I'm a "cheesy" romantic type person...I have a lot to choose from...quick examples being
...nighttime stroll with champagne through public (at the time locked, we snuck in) Rose gardens...then some personal time in the grass.
or...a beach in Cozumel when the phytoplankton was washing ashore (makes the water glow in the dark, crazy looking)
or...surprise valentines hotel room...which took 2 friends 4 hours to set up..candles,decor,presents,food,etc
but i'd give anything just to be standing next to the person in those memories. that's the trouble with romantic "moments" they're only romantic because of the person involved...when the person's gone the location/event wasn't as special by comparison.
My senior year in college right before finals and I was really stressed out, really stressed--my girlfriend at the time, now my wife, said lets go and we drove for a couple hours to Seaside on the Oregon Coast. We got there right around dusk. It was the first time I'd ever witnessed a sunset over the ocean. It was a very beautiful sunset, and a quiet nothing but her and I and the ocean moment that I can still recollect. It was the moment when I realized that I was in love with her.
Now if only my proposal to her could have even approached that, i wouldn't still be catching crap about it 15 years later.
@ pierre: Sometimes we can have the most romantic moments being alone, but I still reckon we should have it with someone special. :)
@ faaabio: You are probably right about the rational part, but difficult moments? no! just interesting experiences.
@ djmetronome: I think I have also become the cheesy romantic type, something i wanted to aviod at all cost but end up being...
@ trm: Well done for that, it is the simplest moments that we remember and that stay will us all of our lives.
meri,
I used to be a hopeless romantic during my teenage and early adult years. guess what, none of the affairs from those cheesy years last more than a few months. although I am still a romantic, i dont let it dominate my life too much anymore.
i dont have a guideline for a romantic kodak moment. i dont care so much about gifts, candles, nature, and sweet talks (that is why a lot of people call me cold). when i think of something, I'll drop you a line
This is the first time I am speaking about my feelings to anyone, I should start my own blog :)
Few months ago I had an oportunity to meet a girl of my dreams. We are from different countries, met each other in third country. And both of us had girlfriend / boyfriend in that time...
Only she was important. I put huge effort to broke her armour, and be something more than friends, and I did it.
We were totally crashed in love.
That was the time when I
re-discovered my romantism again. I did some things I didn't do for a long time: cook for a girl, be late to the business meeting... I was able to do anything
Unfortunatelly this is a sad story. At this moment we are thousands kilometres far away, trying to continue with our lives. It is hard, but at least memories are here and knowing that I had a time of my life
@ Cindy: Oh darling I know you are not the muchy type either, maybe that is good but still make Jan prepare something romantic from time to time it might make you feel nice and fuzzy on the inside ;) people constantly change so maybe you might need some romance in your life, I know I do :)
@ Mister No: I agree, you should start your blog as for your experience, we all become soft and tender when we are in love. And romance story which ends in a sad way is just a nice memory...
I think some people need more romance than others. But what's really important is close friendship. That might even lead to romance that is more ever present. Not guaranteed though. It does take two for a romance to make.
I love the pic - such a classic and romance is so nice and fun - I just don't like the long term stuff after the chase - perhaps I am not ready for any seriousness, but I did something recently that wasnt that romantic, just a nice surprise - I had this surprise where I told my friend to pack her bag as if she was going camping then I picked her up at 5 AM, drove to the airport, took her to the more tranquil and beautiful outer island, and we went to a secluded beach and swam in the prestine ocean, and slept under the stars and moonlight on the warm sandy beach. =)
@ TRM: Eccellent comment, it makes people think of what is really importnat
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